There’s a buzz out there with everybody’s talking about personality tests, discovering strengths and weaknesses, self-improvement, and on and on and on. I wonder how long it will take for people to get tired of constantly “fixing’ themselves.
Don’t get me wrong. I strongly believe in personal growth. Yet, I also know that many are doing it the wrong way.
There’s a time and place for improvement.
There are areas where you CAN improve. You can improve your skills, or learn new ones. You can gain new knowledge and experiences. You can also improve on a personal level – how you communicate with people or manage your anger. You can read more books, attend conferences and seminars and grow at all levels.
Yet, all of the above won’t change who you ARE.
There’s a part of you that will never change, no matter how hard you try.
How you take action or solve problems when you are free to be yourself. This is where your instincts kick-in and lead the way. There is a pattern you follow without even realizing it. You use your energy in a certain way. You always do and always avoid certain things. You do it without giving it much thought and even if you try to do it differently, you simply can’t.
It’s so natural to you that you don’t need think about it. This is how you’ve always worked it and you will continue to work.
Maybe people around you joke about your obsession with having a place for everything or accuse you of being slow at making decisions because you need more information. Not you? Well do you constantly and quickly change your mind, making it hard for others follow – or do you resist change and like to know everything in advance?
Sometimes, you may push to change these tendencies, but instead of “personal growth” you hit a wall, and no matter how hard you try, you cannot sustain those changes. It’s not about what you “know” or “like” or “want”. It’s about what you “do” or “need”.
Let me give you an example. To do my best work I need systems. Everything I do is very systematic. I need structure. If I come to a place where there’s no structure, my first step will be to create it. Only then I can move ahead and focus my energy on other things. Take the structure away or force me to focus on something else without allowing me to create it, and you will have somebody who is frustrated and stressed, without even knowing why. Your “thing” might not necessarily be structure, it may be change, interruptions, information or stability.
Occasionally you may wonder what’s wrong with you and why you continue doing the same things over and over. You may even feel guilty about it.
When you discover the true YOU, suddenly everything will start making sense.
You will realize that there’s nothing wrong with you. Who you are is completely FINE! And the thing that’s been driving you crazy all these years is actually a God-given strength that makes you unique and valuable.
Here’s what I want you to consider today…
Is what you’re trying to improve truly something you CAN improve? Or is it something that makes you who you are and trying to change it will actually slow you down, possibly even stop you completely?
Unfortunately, you won’t be able to find out the answer on your own. But the good news is that there are tools out there that can help you strip down what CAN be changed and show you who you truly are – when you are free to be yourself.
Are you ready to start a journey that will set you free once and for all? I’d be honoured to support you. The first step is on you…
